The day that I first heard I was going to be a father (the day before Father’s day, 1986) I went out and bought a simple journal to log events in my child's life.
Two daughters and 22 plus journals later...
I read a few of those “milestones” at Amy’s wedding -- just a few paragraphs from 22 plus years of journals filled with a lot of “firsts” (steps, words, places visited, people met…) and a few painfully sad “lasts” (good-byes to school days, activities, loved ones…).
(Sir Bowie reading from Page 1 of Journal 1. Photo Credit: Michelle Forche www.memoriesbymichelle.com)
That morning as I read through a lot of the pages trying to edit my comments down to a manageable toast (after all, I didn’t want Amy, Mark, and all the guests to starting yelling, “shut up old man and let’s cut the cake!”) I realized that the word “milestone” was too strong. In most cases, these were just tiny little events that had special meaning only to me.
But if not “milestones,” what were they?
I was reading an article today on moleskinerie.com and came across the perfect term: “milepebbles.”
Which lead me to Marina’s blog http://milepebbles.blogspot.com/
“Better Than Milestones: Retracing my steps to collect random memories: they are the milepebbles of my life.”
I also found another article that summed it all up beautifully, Mile Pebbles Are The Little Moments That Melt Your Heart Written by Anita Myers
She writes that she is constantly going through little moments in life with her daughter that have not exactly earned the title of "milestones" yet are still valued in her heart. So she calls them "milepebbles".
“They are the moments that enter through your eyes, whisper into your heart, create a wonderful swell of love within your spirit and finally leave you with a lump in your throat.”
In her case, they are the moments that “You realize precious moments happening yesterday remain right there - yesterday. That moment, without notice, left the party... and a new and different moment took it's place.”
It's true that most days aren’t filled with milestones; however, every day is full of milepebbles.
May our eyes be open to see them.
Sir Bowie of Greenbriar